Bit of advice needed please?

Dan MacKinnon

@richard-latimer said in Bit of advice needed please?:

@ryan said in Bit of advice needed please?:

There is a compound element to this though, some people come to trading and pick it up naturally while others have to work at it hard.

BUT everyday working on it gets you closer, you learn more etc....

Might still be easier to put it across as a break even hobby

Maybe for the next date, you both watch Wolf of Wall Street and you just nod along agreeing for the whole film.

Richard Latimer

@ryan said in Bit of advice needed please?:

There is a compound element to this though, some people come to trading and pick it up naturally while others have to work at it hard.

BUT everyday working on it gets you closer, you learn more etc....

Might still be easier to put it across as a break even hobby

Ryan

There is a compound element to this though, some people come to trading and pick it up naturally while others have to work at it hard.

BUT everyday working on it gets you closer, you learn more etc....

Richard Latimer

I think I can just put it across as a break even hobby at the moment as that's all it is

Dan MacKinnon

When you do tell her, don’t go into loads of details. Just keep it brief and if she wants to know more she’ll ask. Anything to do with money is a personal thing so tread lightly.

Also, going on about spreadsheets isn’t the massive turn on that we like to think it is!

Nick Terracciano

@richard-latimer I’d hang fire I wouldn’t lie I’d just keep my mouth shut until the times right

John Folan

@richard-latimer said in Bit of advice needed please?:

@john-folan said in Bit of advice needed please?:

F**k me I could write a book on you . Be open and upfront. If she doesn’t get it she’s not for you. You also need to be fair on her. She’s had a bad experience and to do anything else makes you a massive bellend. Do it sooner rather than later.

2nd date it is then

Just do it before you sleep with her.

“O Richard that was amazing”

“Thank you. By the way have I told you about the money to be made in the over1.5 market?”

“Oh ffs not another one”

Richard Latimer

@john-folan said in Bit of advice needed please?:

F**k me I could write a book on you . Be open and upfront. If she doesn’t get it she’s not for you. You also need to be fair on her. She’s had a bad experience and to do anything else makes you a massive bellend. Do it sooner rather than later.

2nd date it is then

John Folan

F**k me I could write a book on you . Be open and upfront. If she doesn’t get it she’s not for you. You also need to be fair on her. She’s had a bad experience and to do anything else makes you a massive bellend. Do it sooner rather than later.

Richard Latimer

We click on so much it would be truly horrible if this got in the way. So I should try and bring it up on the 2nd date?

Obviously I can try and explain everything to her as well as say I would never risk money set aside for bills etc.... I won't be able to show her as we'll be out. I can offer to be 100% transparent. Maybe it's even better to put it across as a hobby (many people do it as a hobby without it being a problem) until I can show large gains to the bank.

We have already discussed so many private things so hopefully this is just another hurdle which can be overcome!!

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@martin @richard-latimer.
Whatever you do, tell her face to face, you can then explain its different trading to gambling.
I would not leave it long as you don't want to get comfy and fall for her if she does not have similar outlooks on certain aspects of your life!
Honesty is always best...otherwise you live a lie.

Martin

@richard-latimer here’s my two cents. Tell her your plans, explain it’s trading and explain it. I think given her history she will not like it so you may have to choose between the two. Be prepared for that and don’t get too attached to her yet.